2017-03-13 - The Fickle Heart
“I don't need you,” my daughter informed me. She wanted me to leave so she could have time with her dad alone. “I want Mom to spend time by herself,” she announced. Her words weren’t meant to be hurtful, just truthful. It’s great she’s not afraid to communicate her feelings, I reasoned and obliged my daughter's wishes, but I felt sorry for myself. I took the temporary request out of proportion and gave my feelings control.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23)
The complex heart is vital to health and yet fragile. It can shatter into a zillion pieces at the sound of a criticism, snide comment, embarrassing snicker, or faux pas. It can become despondent when judged or rejected. Feelings can take over our lives if we let them. Feelings dictate our mood, tone, our productivity, and interactions with others. Emotions were wired in us by God (Ecclesiastes 3:4) so they aren’t things to despise. It’s when we are dictated by negative emotions that life becomes askew.
Negative feelings are like weeds in a garden. Left to themselves they spread and take over. To get rid of pesky and unwanted pests we must pluck them out and have no tolerance. When I was disappointed over my daughter’s choice, I acknowledged how I was feeling to the Lord and asked Him to handle it. When I did that, the disappointment didn’t fester long. It was reassuring having God work the situation out on my behalf. “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
Lord, Please show me how to cope when my feelings get hurt. May I not see things as too extreme. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
All scripture references are from the New International Version (NIV) unless otherwise noted.