2009-10-12 - Insights from Vashti and Xerxes
Love and Marriage: Bible Style
Esther 1:1-4, 10-2:2-18
But when the attendants delivered the king's command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger. (Esther 1:12)
If we analyze the way King Xerxes handled the disagreement between himself and his wife Vashti, we'd notice that they are both to blame for the breakup of their marriage.
A drunk King Xerxes wanted to show off his beautiful wife Vashti to his party guests. When he summoned for her, she refused to go. As was common practice, Xerxes asked his advisors, experts in law and justice, what the penalty was for a queen disobeying a king. In his mind, it was more than a wife snubbing her husband. His feelings and ego were hurt and bruised. For Xerxes, there was no room for reconciliation.
These experts were afraid other women would hear about Vashti's conduct and would exercise it. The advisors suggested Vashti never be in Xerxes' presence again, and thus she would lose her position as queen. Xerxes liked the idea, and Vashti was banished.
Because Vashti took a stand, her marriage crumbled, and her royal and luxurious living ended in an instant. She was forced to start anew.
After Xerxes' anger had subsided, he had second thoughts. So his advisors set up a campaign to get his mind off of Vashti. They searched for a beautiful young virgin to become Xerxes' next queen. Again, Xerxes approved of their plan. The plan worked, and Xerxes fell in love with Esther and made her queen.
Lord, Although the outcome isn't what I wanted, I believe good will come out of this situation. I have believed lies that things will not change or improve. I refuse to believe those lies any longer. Enable me to wait, dear Father. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.