2005-05-23 - Feeling Disconnected from
Summer Questions 2005, Question 2
"Lately, I've felt disconnected from God. I read the Bible and pray, but
often, I still don't feel much. How do I feel connected again?"
This is a very practical question (And the first one I got. As some of you
know, I always answer the first one I get--first) and I am glad you asked
it, because it might be helpful to many. There is frankly no magical answer.
We all struggle with different things, and honestly, we all go through dry
times. When I am experiencing a dry time, I often shake things up. I do something
different in my walk with the Lord. It could be almost any change. One thing
that sometimes works for me is that if I am reading or studying a book of
the Bible that is just not doing it for me, I switch to one I know will encourage
There is no easy answer to becoming UN-disconnected, but I am going to suggest
Do what you are doing. Prayer and Bible reading are the basics. Neither one
of them is always dynamic, and as I said, we all have dry times, but we have
to stick to these basics. In prayer, ask the Spirit to guide you, your hopes,
dreams, and what it is in your life that really makes you happy. Be honest
with the Lord in prayer, and simply say what you just said to me. Tell the
Lord you feel disconnected, and that you don't like it, and want a walk of
faith where you feel like you are closer than any relationship you have ever
had in your life. We see so clearly, especially in the Psalms, that the Lord
hears our prayer, and David was one of the most honest we see in Scripture.
He set us a good example, and we should be honest with the Lord as he was.
Seek fellowship. It is often that the fellowship, encouragement, and example
of other believers can work both as a guide and as a motivation to us. Now,
fellow Christians are also sinners, and so we must understand that sometimes
other believers can bring us down. But what we need to seek out are those
who will help us to grow in our faith, and rest more securely in the grace
of our Lord Jesus Christ. Seeking fellowship is something that is awkward
for many at first, but once we get into the flow, get to know people, and
get known by others, it is a great way to help us in this hard walk of being
faithful to Christ.
Cling to Christ. This is really hard to define, and it really is a lifestyle.
It comes down to how we live these few short moments we get graciously from
the Lord. If our hearts of stone have been changed by the Lord we ought to
take all the breaths we have left to cling to Christ. We will be doing it
for eternity, so why not start now? Resting in Christ has a couple of advantages;
one is peace of conscience. When we know that we are walking in the will
of the Lord, it is hard to feel that disconnection, but when we stray, it
is so easy to feel like we are as far as the East is from the West from God.
I am not saying you have strayed, but I am just saying that clinging to Christ,
the forgiveness offered in Him, and His unending mercy, is a great way to
feel connected to the Lord.
Remember that our faith is not really based on feelings. Faith is not really
a feelings issue. Faith, simply put, is faith in something other than we
can really understand. If we are honest, we can all admit that we live by
faith every day. It takes faith just to live life, and faith in Christ is
the smartest faith we could ever muster up. So we don't base things on our
feelings. Rather, we seek to inform our feelings based the truths that we
learn in Scripture, and then seek to connect to the truths that we learn
from Scripture in our lives. This is the work of the Holy Spirit, because
it is so much more than we could ever understand on our own.
I am so thankful for your question. I hope some of these things are helpful
both for you, and for many others.
Soli Deo Gloria,