2017-12-04 - Revenge
Don’t hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody. Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.” (Romans 12:19 AMP)
Tamar wanted to get back at her father-in-law. When Tamar’s husband died, Judah told his next son to marry her. Onan did, but wanted an heir of his own, and did not allow her to become pregnant; thus he died. Judah then promised Tamar his youngest son, if she waited for him to grow up. Her father-in-law Judah reneged on his promise, and Tamar never married Shelah. Judah was afraid his son would also die.
Tamar had a score to settle. Instead of talking the situation over with God or even Judah, Tamar took matters into her own hands. She wanted to restore her reputation. It wasn’t her fault her husbands had died. She devised a despicable scheme. Tamar shed her widow’s clothing and disguised herself as a prostitute. She wore a veil to cover her face, and hid her true identity. She then stood by the side of the road and waited for the widowed Judah, who was out shearing his sheep. Judah noticed her, and promised to give her a young goat from his flock as payment for their time together. Judah gave her some of his personal belongings as collateral. He had no idea the woman was indeed Tamar, his daughter-in-law.
When Judah sent the goat to the unidentified woman, he could not find her. Three months later, he found out Tamar was with child, and he wanted her burned, which was the penalty for prostitution. Then Tamar revealed his possessions, the belongings he had given to her in disguise. Judah said he understood Tamar’s reason for the deception, as he didn't keep his promise to her. Tamar had twin boys, Perez and Zerah.
Tamar got the results she wanted - but at what cost?
Lord, Before I do something rash, grant me wisdom in my decision-making skills. May I wait for you to defend me. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
All scripture references are from the New International Version (NIV) unless otherwise noted.