2010-05-16 - Defining Honor
The Ten Commandments, Part 27
Paul talks of this command in Ephesians 6:1-4, which we will look at as a necessary adjunct to our understanding of how to obey this injunction, as well as the responsibility of parents to aid their children in obedience.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother which is the first commandment with a promisethat it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth
First, though we need a definition of honor:
honor n. 3.a. Glory or recognition; distinction. b. A mark, token, or gesture of respect or distinction: the place of honor at the table. tr.v.1.a. To hold in respect; esteem. b. To show respect for.
The word in Hebrew is kabed, in the imperative, that is a command. Harris says this about its usage:
Likewise persons in positions of responsibility and authority were deserving of honor (Exodus 20:12; Malachi 1:6). It is significant to remind oneself that giving honor or glory is to say that someone is deserving of respect, attention and obedience. A life which does not back up one's honorable words is hypocrisy of a high form
We are commanded to honor our parents, not because they deserve it, but because they are our parents. Nevertheless, it is the parents' responsibility to behave in such a manner that makes it easier for the child to be obedient.
This is similar to the injunction in Ephesians for husbands to love their wives, and wives to submit to their husbands. Husbands are to love their wives, even when they are unlovable, and wives are to submit, even when their husbands are being a pain in the neck. Keep in mind that the bottom line is mutual submission. If husbands really love their wives, that is put them first, then the wives would have minimal problems with the issue of submission. I think you will find where each, in the Lord, is trying to carry out their responsibility, it makes it a lot easier for the other to also be obedient.
So it is with parents and children. Children are to honor their parents, even if they are not deserving of it, and parents are to behave in a manner that does not intentionally provoke the children to disobedience of this command. Let's take a look again at what Paul says about this in Ephesians 6:1-4. It is clear that Paul considers this commandment just as applicable to the church as it was to Israel. He wants it to be clear that while children are bound to this, regardless of the behavior of the parents, the parents also have a responsibility to help them be obedient.
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