2007-03-06 - Why Me?
I'm not sure if I'm the one who should be writing this series or not. You see I'm in the statistics I talked about last time. But maybe that's what makes me the right person to write this series.
For a long time I didn't even think it was a bad thing. I was convinced it was a normal thing to do as do so many others. According to research done by Barna, thirty-eight percent of adults believe it is 'morally acceptable' to look at pictures of nudity or explicit sexual behavior; thirty-eight percent of adults believe there is nothing wrong with pornography use; and, a staggering fifty-nine percent of adults believe it is 'morally acceptable' to have sexual thoughts or fantasies. To me, looking at pornography, fantasizing about supermodels and actresses, undressing women at the beach with my eyes - all of those things just seemed, well, natural. But then again, sin does come natural.
And make no mistake lustful fantasies and thoughts are a sin. One of the greatest commandments given to us by Jesus is to love those around you. Jesus said: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these." (Mark 12:30-32 NIV) Further he said we are to love one another. (John 13:34) Deliberately doing things that hurt others is a sin because it is not acting in love. This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. (1 John 3:16 NIV) If you don't believe your actions hurt your spouse, your girlfriend, or your boyfriend just ask them.
I remember one time several years ago, my wife and I were driving down a road close to our house. Heading towards us was a jogger. As the jogger got closer, I could tell she looked nice. She was a bit "bouncy" too. My eyes followed her as she past on into the rear view mirror. My wife caught me staring at her and she got mad. But in the anger I also could tell she was hurt. I had sinned against her. It was sin then and is still sin for me today to lust after others. It hurts my wife and that makes it a sin.
And it's sin for you too. Looking at Playboy, watching soft core porn, surfing the net for nude images - it is not a 'victimless crime'. It hurts those who love you. It hurts the precious people in your life. And it hurts God too.